EROTICA

so I’ve come to the conclusion.

sabrinaz:

that i’m in love with:

1. James Deen 
2. Jason segel
3. Iwan Rheon
4. Seth Rogen 

I thought i’d share that. 
that is all.  

holy shit, we’re nearly the same person.

taking a direction

this can be difficult because it’s all about reading her body language. you see, there’s a time for love-making and then there’s a time for fucking. i’ll just make a quick list of ways to approach sex to get the most out of her.

1. if you feel that she’s relaxed, taking it slow and easy, that’s generally a sign that you’re in for some vanilla sex. good news is that she then has the control to change the mood if she pleases but dont go forcing her.
2. if she starts becoming rough, agressive and trying to tear your clothes off then there’s 2 immediate approaches you can choose. either become aggressive and rough yourself (i mean hair-pulling, face-slapping <- great bdsm turn-ons) or you can choose to become poised and remain in control of your passion, it’ll drive her crazy, and this is where our fun begins.

Firstly, in terms of turn-ons, there are many commonly associated with bdsm including:

• bondage (obviously)
• dirty talk (if you can master this she’ll melt)
• feeling controlled and helpless
• erotic asphyxiation (choking or throat-grabbing included)
• spanking
• face-slapping
• hair-pulling and being lead around by the hair
• deep-throating
• being generally man-handled

if you can grasp the concept of treating her like a fuck toy while respecting her limits and helping her become a better submissive then she’ll be overjoyed.

becoming dominant before you become a dominant.

ok, so you’ve found someone who has the potential to be a submissive? someone who may have even offered themselves to you on a silver platter begging for something more intense? well, before you even consider embarking on the journey of light BDSM, its important that your attitude compliments your actions.

i’ll focus on talking about the period of time before foreplay, when you both know what you want and the game of cat and mouse begins. I’ll keep it simple as possible.

• be passionate - make her know you want it and how badly you do. example, slip your hand lightly around her throat as you kiss her deeply.
• show your control - a light pat on the ass in public or otherwise, its the best way to show the world that she’s yours and you’re proud to own her.
• eye contact - undress her with your eyes. she’ll know you’re getting ready to pounce and it tends to get the heart racing a little, especially in public.

moving in for the kill… so to speak.

• know what she likes - if it’s still early in the relationship then ask her what aspects of bdsm she enjoys or what her top turn-on’s and turn-off’s are. 

..to be continued in the next post!